Before we tie the knot, we all have our doubts. After all, weddings aren’t something you can easily pull out of. You can’t really change your mind, and even if you do – you risk it backfiring. Friends may not be your friends anymore, people may dislike you, others will certainly criticize you. All in all, getting married when you are not sure is not really a thing that you want to do.
So many people get cold feet that it’s almost unbelievable. Be that as it may, though, there is a way to know that you have met the right person for you. Here is our guide on finding out the best mate, or rather – confirming that you have found your mate.
Looks Matter, But What’s After That?
If looks are the only foundation of your relationship, you might be in trouble. There is so much that you need to consider when it comes to your relationship. For starters, is there a deeper foundation for it? Is there understanding and appreciation? Support and perhaps a common outlook on life? These are important. Of course, for many people, suitable looks make the most out of a situation.
You don’t have to sweat it if you look well and so does your partner. It’s as simple as that and we understand why it works this way. However, if everything is going to depend on looks alone, you will definitely find yourself in a tough situation – perhaps not any time soon, but soon enough.
Do You Love Your Partner?
Do you love your partner? Can you live without them? Is it fear that’s keeping you or you truly appreciate them? Being with someone and trusting them completely creates a sort of relationship that is difficult to just extricate out of your daily routine – it’s not about the routine whoever and it should never be. You don’t want to be putting up with habits, you want to act like and enjoy someone’s company.
It’s simple enough, and as you can see yourself, there are ways to check if you love a partner. If you can’t stand being away from them – this is your number one indication. However, do consider the jealousy factor. If you are just jealous that they might betray your trust and intimacy – then this is insecurity and not ‘love.’ Be able to analyze your own thoughts and desires properly.
Do You Agree About Things?
It’s important that you and your partner reach an agreement about different things and work together towards resolving any differences. This is perhaps the most important condition of them all to have a successful relationship. If a partner asks you not to leave your clothes or socks somewhere, you got to be able to sit down and really understand why they want you to do this. Rather than put up with the request that is.
For instance, guys often want to have their clothes ready and women tend to do this – it’s just one of those weird things that women do – they help men get dressed. For the life of me – I never knew why. But they do, and when they do, they have less time to get themselves dressed up. And there you have it, the moment when some men would grow impatient because they have to wait. But the only reason that you have to wait is that you have just made your partner prepare everything for you, not leaving them enough time.
You must agree that this is unfair – especially if you are getting stroppy because they aren’t quick enough, apparently.
Some people take social status too seriously, but the truth is that you can be doing any job and be earning very well. For instance, when you hear about a car locksmith, you are probably thinking that they are poor, but the truth is that a car locksmith is probably out-earning the majority of college professions. Many car locksmiths are actually well-educated and interested in electronics and all sorts of topics. If you are the type of person that would judge a person based on their profession, though, you may definitely not want to put yourself in situations where you would be criticizing your partner for nothing better than their choice of career.